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Questions at the Core

Basement Damage

As a professional analyst, my job is impossible without questions. Questions are at the core of nearly all analysis work. It’s really an art asking the right questions. But they are necessary to understand.

Above is a photo of our once finished basement. It’s a mess now, but we’re closer to understanding the extent of the damage.

“What’s behind that wall? Did the wiring get compromised? Can those plywood joists really be safe after three days in water?” These questions are at the core of understanding the restoration effort. The obvious damage is easy to identify. However, without answers to the more probing questions, we wouldn’t discover the reality behind the surface.

Without answers to good questions the scope is sketchy.

What if…
I asked more questions?
I asked smarter questions?
I didn’t stop asking questions until I was satisfied with the answer?
An answer caused me to shift my core assumptions?

Total Disruption – First Reaction to Our Flooded Home

On our way to La Guardia I missed a call from a neighbor. Just 12 hours earlier we were discussing with a friend how cold it’s been and how we were hoping not to get that call.  Our neighbors first noticed an inordinate amount of water in our side yard, near where the sump pump spits out the unwanted water from the basement. When another neighbor graciously shoveled clean our driveway before our return, they noticed water coming out from under our garage door. On further inspection, water was coming out from everywhere.

How I dreaded coming home to that! 

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Take Only One Rod

In Eldredge’s The Way of the Wild Heart he encourages dads to connect with their kids. Going deeper, he makes the point be intentionally focused on the child – making it about him or her.  He came to a critical point with his youngest son, Luke, when he realized time spent was about the boy, not about the event. When they went fishing, John took just one pole- for Luke.

What if… the next time I connect with one of my daughters I leave my phone behind? What if I bring only one basketball?